On self-love + self-care: resources + goodies


Our year of celebration continues and this month, our theme is self-love.

Afri-love was founded on the principle of self-love. The idea being that when we love ourselves – as we are – we can then create positive transformation, for ourselves, for our communities and for the world at large.

This was my wish for myself and my fellow Africans, given the too-common thinking we’re surrounded by, that anything from outside is better and more desirable.

While these are big mindsets to shift, I believe it all starts with us on an individual level. It all starts with the self.

Self-love vs self-care

I see self-love as a state and self-care as behaviour that supports/contributes to that state. That’s why I think they’re often used almost interchangeably, even in this post.

“Self-love is about loving who you are, all of you – flaws, mistakes and all. It is about unconditional compassion. Self-care is about being deliberate in taking time for yourself for the betterment of your mind, body and soul. It is about replenishing and refreshing your spirit in different ways.”

[from this presentation]

Radical self-love

Our personal practices of self-love are powerful! I am reminded of what Audre Lorde said:

Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.”

[More on this thought]

So, to all the world-changers reading this, whether or not you buy into the Valentine’s excitement of this month, I hope to inspire you to take some time to love on yourself!

The US celebrates Black History Month in February so, if you connect with this, let your self-care also be a celebratory act!

#justformechallenge returns!

How about committing to do something, just for yourself, every day for 28 days?

I started the #justformechallenge in 2017, a few weeks after my son was born, to challenge myself to commit to doing things for myself. I thought it would be more fun to embark on the journey with others!

If you haven’t already, join the Afri-love Women community. I’ll be sharing several prompts, ideas and inspiration in the group, and encouraging members to send in photos for daily accountability (I’ll be sharing mine too). We’ve done this in the past and it was such a vibe!

You can also share your photos on Instagram, with the hashtag #justformechallenge.

Self-love/self-care resources


WED 12th : Pillow Talk : Self Care, Nairobi

FRI 14th: Just for me challenge begins, Online in the Afri-love Women group and via #justformechallenge on Instagram

MON 17th: Vision boarding and goal-setting workshop with the Afri-love Connection Club at Nairobi Garage, Spring Valley

THURS 20th: Soulful Branding Live with Lulu, Online in the Afri-love Women group

THURS 20th: Vision boarding and goal-setting workshop with the Afri-love Connection Club at Nairobi Garage, Karen


Me-time: 9 tips to enjoy more of it this year

How to enjoy 28 days of me-time this February


Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Embodied: A self-care guide for sensitive souls – written by one of my best friends, Tara Jackson

Learning to Love Yourself by Gay Hendricks Ph.D.

Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes


@alex_elle – writer Alexandra Elle

@beingupile – Malawian storyteller Upile Chisala

@the.holistic.psychologist – Psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera teaches us to heal and consciously create a new version of ourselves

@risingwoman – Spiritual psychology, conscious relationship, boundaries, shadow work, astrology and inner child meditation


Nappily Ever After – Have some fun!


The Embody Podcast – Be at home with and love yourself


Yoga ladies – Our latest series of cards, available on our Etsy shop

Sign up to our studio mailing list to get this month’s mobile wallpaper (sneak peek at the top of this post!). You’ll also get access to our library of other wallpaper, downloadables and more.

Over to you

What self-love and self-care resources would you recommend?

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